Still others talk about values and beliefs without discussing religion or spirituality at all.
Whatever your relationship to religion, it's important that you talk with your child about sexuality in the context of your own personal, moral views.
That's why it's important that you start the conversation with your teen early.Continue this conversation throughout your teen's life by letting them know you are open and non-judgmental regarding the issue of sex and sexuality.Then you will be able to share information and respond to questions in ways that will resonate with the belief system they are developing for themselves. All children deserve to be wanted and loved, and parents can reinforce this message.Let them know you are interested in what they think and how they feel about any topic, whether it is sexuality, school, religion, the future, or whatever.Remember, no parent needs to be an expert on sexuality to have meaningful conversations with their children since every parent can share their values about sexuality, relationships, and respect for others.
While it does take some forethought, parents can provide accurate information to their children about sexuality and reinforce their spiritual or religious values.
Here is a list of advice you may want to consider that can help prevent estranging your teen in the process: Be clear about your values. It is important to give your children factual information – and to be very specific about how your beliefs either agree with or differ from science. This can provide an opportunity to make sure that your child both has accurate information and hears what your values are relating to it.
Before you speak with your child about sexuality, think about what your values are. It also provides an opportunity to explain that there are different beliefs in the community, that people are allowed to disagree with each other, and that differing views should be respected – as long as those views are based on ethics, responsibility, justice, equality, and nonviolence. Young people often find it confusing when parents talk about a value regarding sexuality and then act in a way that does not support that value.
Additionally, when teens feel uncomfortable coming to their parents or guardians regarding difficult issues, such as sex, they often turn to their friends and/or the media in order to gain information.
Often, the information that your teen receives from these sources are either blatantly wrong or misinformed.
Sometimes parents are fearful about saying too much, too soon (although there's no evidence that this should be a concern).